Ok...so the Doner  and I have been married for more than 11 years.  We have three boys together. 

We don't have sex.  I don't want him and and he doesn't want me.  We sorta like each other. We love each other, but not like that. We agreed that I a can "play" with others. I have no desire, right now.  I am too jealous as a person to let him "play" alone. If he does it on the DL, I don't want to know. It's a psychological thing.

That is where we stand. Fo now.